My approach to counselling

What it feels like to work with me

Many people come to counselling unsure what to expect, or concerned that they may be judged, analysed or pushed towards solutions before they feel ready. My approach is grounded in creating a calm, thoughtful space where you can speak openly and explore your experiences at a pace that feels manageable.

There is no expectation that you arrive with clear goals or a perfectly formed explanation of what’s wrong. Therapy can be a place to slow down, to notice patterns more clearly, and to begin understanding yourself in a deeper and more compassionate way.

The counselling relationship is unlike most other relationships in your life. It is boundaried, confidential and consistent, offering a secure base from which difficult thoughts and feelings can be explored safely.

A person-centred and non-directive approach

My training is in person-centred therapy, an approach developed by Carl Rogers and others. At its heart is a belief that each of us has an innate tendency towards growth when the right conditions are present. Rather than directing you or imposing interpretations, I trust that you are the expert in your own life.

Being non-directive does not mean being passive. My role is to listen carefully and attentively, noticing themes, patterns and tensions that may sit just outside your awareness. At times I may gently reflect these back to you, helping you make connections that feel meaningful and grounded in your own experience.

In simple terms, you bring the content of your life; I hold the process. Together, this creates space for change to emerge naturally rather than being forced.

Working with patterns and relationships

Our early relationships can shape the ways we relate to ourselves and others, often in ways we are not fully conscious of. Drawing on attachment-informed thinking, I pay attention not only to what you bring to counselling, but also to how we relate with each other within the sessions.

When a counselling relationship feels steady and attuned, it can offer an experience of being understood in a way that supports growth beyond the therapy space. Over time, this can influence how you experience other relationships in your life.

Rather than focusing on diagnosis or labels, the work centres on understanding patterns and responding to them with greater clarity and choice.

Neurodivergent-affirming practice

Through my work with clients, and through personal reflection, I have come to recognise and identify with a number of autistic traits in myself. This has naturally shaped my practice, and I work in a way that is affirming of neurodivergent ways of thinking and experiencing the world.

I regularly work with individuals exploring autism, ADHD and other neurotypes. My aim is not to pathologise difference, but to create a space where your experience is taken seriously and understood within its broader context.

If you would like to understand more about the practical details of working together, you can read about sessions, fees and availability on my Practicalities page. If you are ready to take the next step, you are welcome to arrange an introductory conversation.